Quotes that can Improve You

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It might take a little coffee or probably a few rounds of beer or any other booze you could get your hands on when it comes to relaxing after a hard day’s work. Well, yeah I’m guilty about that one as well, unless I’m caught dead wearing a lampshade over my head after a few rounds of vodka… half-naked! Okay, bad example and I apologize to everyone reading this after getting nightmares about me in that state of drunken stupor.

Just don’t ask how it happened, please.

But what’s really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? I mean, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one of the good things and it actually works. Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It kind of had me thinking that there really must be something in this ‘mind-over-matter’ thing.

Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants after laughing so hard. Despite of what’s been happening, and to those who has gone though the ordeal, it’s better to just laugh while facing the troubles with a clear mind than anger with a clouded vision. One of my favorite celebrities of all time may have to be Woody Allen. Now this is one guy who gives you the in-your-face bluntness that he pulls out with gusto, even without even trying. You can talk just about anything with a man, and he’s bound to mock the subject and you’ll end up laughing rather than being upset about it.

Woody Allen has this to say:

1. “Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons.” It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn’t have to take an arm and a leg to get it.

2. “I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it’s the government.” ‘Nuff said.

3. “There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?” This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life’s little problems isn’t all that bad, until ‘he’ shows up.

Sure, relationships can get complicated, or does have its complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. We follow what our heart desires, unless you’re talking about the heart as in the heart that pump blood throughout your body.

4. “Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions.” And if you want more, just keep on asking!

5. “A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to go to bed with me, she said ‘no’.” It sounds, ‘practical’, I think.

And when it comes to everyday life, he really knows how to make the best out of every possible scenario, and it doesn’t involve a lawsuit if he strikes a nerve.

6. “Basically my wife was immature. I’d be at home in the bath and she’d come in and sink my boats.” I never had a boat in my bathtub before. Just staring at it while soaking in hot water makes me seasick already.

7. “I am not afraid of death, I just don’t want to be there when it happens.” If it rains, it pours.

8. “I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose.” It could get worse when you’re guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!

9. “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” At least he doesn’t smite us with lightning, and I’m thankful for that.

And despite of what may happen to all of us in the next ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I guess we all have to see things in a different kind of light and not just perspective. I can’t seem to imagine life without any piece of wisdom that could guide us. Whether we’re religious or not, it takes more courage to accept your fears and learn how to deal with them is all that matters when it comes to even just getting along.

And to sum things up, here is the last nugget of wisdom to go by… however, whenever, and wherever we may be.

10. “The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.”

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How To Use Fun to Self Motivate In Any Situation

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It’s no mystery to us that when we experience fun, we feel uplifted and motivated to do things. No matter how you define fun, it’s a totally effective way of firing up your mood to give it your all every single day. Try to think about your work. When you don’t enjoy what you do, you will never experience that ever burning passion that would make you wake up each morning to get ready to go to the office. It’s basically just finding the little things that make puts a smile on your face each time. No matter how small it may be like the tie you wear to work, it’s helpful on your part to be happy with whatever it is that you do. Try out these helpful tips that would help you ease the stress and enlighten your mood:

Wear That Beautiful Smile!

It may seem overrated but smiling can make the difference between a whole day of being happy or feeling really heavy deep inside. Try to smile and you’ll notice a lot of difference. Smiling too is like disease (minus all the pain and agony though) as it is contagious to almost everyone around you and almost nobody is immune to it. Try it out! Maybe next time you’ll earn yourself a new friend. Have fun, be happy and don’t forget that smile!

Make Every Day A Challenging Game

Challenge yourself to the things that you do. Be that person who always seems to be optimistic no matter how huge the odds may be. Add a little spice to your day by achieving more than what you did yesterday. A little healthy challenge goes a long way and it can also improve your daily working pattern. Pushing yourself just a little bit each time makes you a better player than the others. Try to do it more often at the office and you might have your boss notice your good work and give you a raise!

Don’t Treat Work as Work

Some people said, “If you enjoy what you do, you never have to work a single day in your life” and this can also happen to you. Although this may not apply to everyone who’s got some very demanding work but for the rest, this can be easily applied. Work, profession, and career can all be made fun. Indulge yourself with the things that pleases you and make you happy. Motivation normally comes when you are happy with the things you have, the people around you, your job, and the little things that make life worth living. Take the time to appreciate these things and enjoy!

RSA Animate – Drive: The surprising truth about what motivates us (video)

This lively RSA Animate, adapted from Dan Pink’s talk at the RSA, illustrates the hidden truths behind what really motivates us at home and in the workplace.

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Build Your Self-Esteem – A Starter Guide to Self-Improvement

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So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may want to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you will not even remember. Do not let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can not be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve ourselves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It is okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But do not let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake: as a lesson learned.

Dart Pin #5: Negative Worldview
Look at what you are looking at. Do not wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it does not mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you will never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God would not come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”

In life, its hard to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battlefield, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bulletproof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bulletproof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.

Meet Yourself: A User’s Guide to Building Self-Esteem: Niko Everett at TEDxYouth@BommerCanyon (video)

Niko Everett would like to introduce you to someone she thinks you should know-YOU! As the founder of Girls for Change, Niko has helped many young teens transform their communities and themselves by holding up a powerful mirror. In this engaging talk, Niko will demonstrate how anyone- from boys and girls to grown men and women can get a glimpse into their own transformational looking glass too. Inspirational and empowering. FInd out more about Niko’s work on http://nikoeverett.com

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Thank you for reading my post “Build Your Self-Esteem – A Starter Guide to Self-Improvement”. There are a few things not to forget.

It is what you think, about you, that creates you. We are here in this physical body to learn, all the BS that we go through is to teach us something. So, learn from all the dumb shit you do, or you will get another chance to learn. Over and over again, until you do.

God Love Us, (no matter what Gods name is to you) Being a loving God, wants to give you what you want. So rules were made, to give you what you want, you get what you think, if you didn’t want it, you would not be thinking about it.

The reason some people are able to give good advice is not because they are smarter than you, it is because they have already done a lot of stupid shit and have learned not to do it again.

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The Dangers of Depression

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There are definite dangers associated with depression. It can affect nearly all ages, with some groups and demographics being more susceptible than others (women are more likely to develop depression than men, for example, and teens are said to be more prone to depression than adults).

Depression can even be fatal, warn medical professionals; and it’s not just the disorder that poses risks. Medications can also present their own list of risky side effects.

Here are some of the dangers commonly associated with depression.

Suicide
This may be the “ultimate” danger associated with depression – it’s considered by many to be the most extreme manifestation of the disorder. Depressed people may convince themselves that they just aren’t worth enough to live, or that their friends and family will be better off without them.

Warning signs of suicide include:

  • Preoccupation with death – person constantly talks about death or conducts extensive research into the afterlife, methods of suicide, and other related subjects
  • Gathering belongings and giving them away
  • Cleaning out and “getting things in order” for no apparent reason
  • Continual speaking about death, the afterlife, or other similar things

Loss of Job and Income
Depression can be debilitating. The depressed person feels worthless and unmotivated, and may call in sick frequently or not show up for work. They may be late or be unable to face difficulties during the workday. Depression can cause a person to be indecisive and unable to concentrate, which could be extremely dangerous in certain types of work (such as construction or factory work that requires a worker to be alert to avoid injury to him/herself or others).

Losing a job may then exacerbate the person’s depression, and the loss of income could affect the amount of medical attention and medication he or she is able to afford.

Medications
While medication can save lives, it can also pose serious and/or dangerous side effects. Antidepressants tend to have fewer side effects than SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors), but antidepressants may, ironically, induce suicidal thoughts.

Several years ago, a popular antidepressant was called on the carpet for indirectly causing the actual suicides of many people who took it. SSRIs may cause bad headaches, temporary or chronic diarrhea, insomnia, nausea, and/or nervousness and agitation.

Self-Neglect
Depressed people have a tendency to neglect their own health and care. They may not have the energy or focus to keep their homes clean, eat well, or care for their body. Because of this self-neglect, depressed individuals may be more susceptible to illness.

More serious illnesses may go untreated because the depressed person just can’t cope with the idea of having a serious illness and therefore he or she doesn’t seek help or treatment.

Dr. Leon Rosenberg MD Talks About The Dangers Of Depression Following The Death Of Robin Williams (video)

Dr. Leon Rosenberg MD talks to Ukee and Pat about the dangerous effects of depression following Robin Williams’ apparent suicide.

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Depression Explained

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Do you know someone who has depression? Have you or someone in your family been diagnosed with depression? Even if we are dealing with depression in ourselves or our families, we may not know what it really is. Is it just feeling sad all the time? Why can’t people just snap out of it?

Depression is said to be the most widespread mental disorder. It affects women far more than men, and is particularly prevalent in teens.

What Causes Depression?

There are various opinions on what causes depression, and even the role of brain chemicals is debated. Generally, though, depression can be separated into two categories: circumstantial and clinical.

Circumstantial depression refers to feelings surrounding an event, such as a death in the family or having to sell one’s house and move. The circumstances that can cause depression are extremely numerous, from kids having trouble with friends at school to the elderly in a nursing home. Circumstantial depression is also highly individualized.

Clinical depression defies circumstances and the depressed person may feel more depressed because he or she can’t find a reason for such dreadful feelings. Clinical depression may baffle those around the patient, too, because they can’t understand how a person could be depressed when his or her life seems to be going fine. This lack of understanding may make the patient’s depression worse.

Treatment approaches differ according to the type of depression the patient is experiencing as well as the individual’s personality and lifestyle.

Myths

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There are a lot of myths surrounding depression that, when explained, help people better understand the illness. For example:

Isn’t depression just self-pity?
Depressed people may seem to be “wallowing” in their sadness, but it’s not willful self-pity. It’s a true medical illness, sources point out, that should be treated as such.

Medication for depression is overkill, and just treats the symptoms
For those on the outside, so to speak, medication can seem like putting a Band-Aid on a massive wound. But often, medication is what the patient needs to feel good enough to seek help for the underlying problem.

Depression is not a “real” illness
Actually, it is; brain imaging studies have revealed how the actual chemical imbalances occur in the brain of a depressed person. It is considered physiological, even if the cause is circumstantial – the chemical imbalance may still be present regardless of the depression’s origin.

Other Factors

Depression can be affected not only by circumstances; genetics, personality, psychology, and biology may also play a role. Women are far more likely to be diagnosed with depression, indicating possible hormonal factors. Men, on the other hand, are more likely to succeed in suicide as a result of depression than women, although more women than men attempt suicide, sources report.

Depression: The Misunderstood Epidemic (Video)

This documentary is a very helpful explanation for the people that have depression to understand what is normal and what is not in our thoughts and mind. This documentary has been very helpful to me to understand exactly that. What is wrong with me. Also, and I think more important is, for people that do not have depression to understand us and what is actually wrong in our brain. We are not crazy, we are sick with one of the most misunderstood epidemics, Depression.


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Factors That Influence Your Self-Esteem

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There are many factors in life that influence your self-esteem. These factors can either build your self-esteem up, or pull you down.

Childhood
Your childhood is one of the main contributing influences to your self-esteem. As you are growing up and your personality and everything else are developing, everyone around you has the potential to influence the person you become – including your self-esteem.

For example, children that grow up in particularly chaotic home environments tend to have lower confidence and self-esteem. Children that grow up in unstable homes tend to carry that burden with them throughout their entire lives.

Society
The pressures of society are a main contributor of low self-esteem. There are so many demands to live a certain way, dress a certain way, have a certain kind of job and act accordingly. These pressures can weigh on you, and succumbing to the pressure can often lead to low self-esteem.

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Media
Our absolute obsession with the media, whether it is print ads, television, or social media, contributes to the dilemma of widespread self-esteem issues, especially in today’s youth. The ready access of social media especially helps to influence young minds with the pressure to look, act, or otherwise be like celebrities, public figures, or even their peers. It can be hard not to compare yourself to others even as an adult, but young people struggle with this even more than adults.

Beliefs
Some religions and other belief systems can contribute to your sense of self-worth. On the one hand, some religions and belief systems can build you up as a person and fill your life with love and joy. On the other, some religions suggest that people are inherently bad and that you are a “sinner” no matter how you live your life. While no belief system is inherently bad in itself, sometimes these practices and ideas can influence self-esteem.

Friends and Family
The people you spend time with have a big influence on your self-esteem. Your friends can help you build up your confidence, self-image, and self-respect, or they can bring you down. Some people even purposefully bring each other down to build themselves up, whether or not they are aware of what they are doing.

The family that you grew up with, as well as the family that you come home to, can have an effect on your self-esteem as well. Feelings of inadequacy when it comes to providing for your family can add to a low self-esteem, while a family that works together and builds each other up can contribute to a healthy self-esteem.

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Romantic Involvements
All relationships can influence your self-esteem, but romantic relationships tend to have the biggest effect. Being in a happy and loving relationship can boost your self-esteem. On the other hand, a bad relationship can bring you down in so many ways. A bad break-up or being left by a partner can also weigh heavily on your confidence and self-esteem.

Work Environment
You spend so much of your life at work or at school, so it’s no wonder that that environment would influence every aspect of your life, including your self-esteem. A stressful and overly demanding job can often contribute to a low self-esteem, while a productive and encouraging workplace can help you grow stronger.

Health
Your overall health can also contribute to your self-esteem. Taking care of yourself, body, mind and spirit can strengthen all aspects of yourself including your self-esteem.

Overall, there are so many factors that can influence your self-esteem. Every part of your life has influence, and therefore has power over your self-esteem. But, the person with the most control over your self-esteem is yourself. Practice giving yourself good messages; avoid self-bullying in order to build up your self-esteem.

Self Esteem – Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem

Self Esteem – The inner workings of self esteem, the root causes of low self-esteem, and how you can improve your esteem today.


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Easy Ways to Feel Good in Your Own Skin

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It isn’t uncommon for people to feel down about themselves or that they aren’t as important as others. The truth is, however, that no one is perfect and there’s no reason why you can’t feel good about yourself. Use some of the following easy ways to feel good in your own skin and see the difference it can make.

You don’t have to be perfect or compare yourself with others to feel good about yourself. You can learn to see your own beauty by concentrating on the positive and playing down the negative. Before you can do that you’ll want to take a serious, objective look at yourself. Think about the things you do well, the friends you have and physical features you’re happy with about yourself. If there are things that you’re comfortable with, you have a starting point.

* Accept that you’re never going to be perfect. Even women who spend thousands of dollars trying to have the perfect body or perfect nose are never satisfied. You can save yourself quite a bit of money by accentuating the positive. Suppose you have beautiful, expressive eyes. Why not learn a new way to use make-up to draw focus to your eyes? You can also use make-up to make a too large nose look smaller or a crooked smile appear straight.

* There is more to beauty and feeling good in your own skin than merely looking good. You might be surprised that beauty begins between the ears. What? If you have a good attitude and believe you are the best you that you can be, you’ll begin feeling better about yourself – perhaps even better than if you’d just come back from a week at a spa.

* Splurge and get a flattering new hairstyle. Ask friends what type of hairstyle they think you’d look good in and then go to a beauty parlor to get a new look. Don’t forget to get advice from the hair stylist. They’re trained to know what type of style is appropriate for each face shape.

* Spend some time taking care of yourself. Go on a walk with a friend or a loved one. Not only will the exercise help you physically, it will help you mentally and spiritually as well. There’s nothing quite like being out in nature breathing in fresh air and being active. Make exercise an important part of your day and you’ll begin feeling better about yourself.

* Decide to change your eating habits. Choose fresh fruits and vegetables as well as limiting simple carbohydrates and sweets. Reduce your portion sizes and if you must have dessert, share it with someone else. When you start making better food choices, you’ll find it can change the way you feel dramatically.

* Try not to compare yourself with others. Sure, there may be someone at work who appears to have it all – looks, brains, ability or money. However, if you really knew this person, you’d probably find they have their own doubts about themselves and their life isn’t as perfect as you think it is.

If you’re not entirely comfortable about the way you look you may be struggling to like yourself. Using some of these easy ways to feel good in your own skin, you can begin to make small changes which will greatly transform your life. All it takes is a little courage and determination to get you started toward feeling good in your own skin and enjoying your life.

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Previous Episode: Learning From Our Mistakes: http://youtu.be/SAq-zaMzCMI

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